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10 Days OF Power (The True Story)

122I released this e-book on my birthday. 10 Days of Power: Accessing the Power Within. It is a 10 day devotional that helps to bring awareness of the strength down on the inside of you. But I must be very honest I had a lot of concerns about putting this out into the world. Why may you say? See I am an introvert I don’t like being the center of attention or calling attention to myself. I almost dint put it out because of that fear. But I had listened to a periscope by Dr. Sonja Stribling on “Give yourself permission to be amazing. It was just what I needed to hear before the launch of this project. See if you are like me how many times have you allowed fear to hold you back. I can’t tell you how many opportunities and situations that could have had me further then I am right now that I did not seize because of fear. Fear of rejection, criticism, and not being good enough.

What I have come to know for sure is that their will always be uncertainty. There will always be critics. As my pastor says “the by-product of success is critics”. But there is also the blessing and joy of not allowing fear to stop you and allow the fear of criticism stop you. And I would not be getting the emails and messages over social media how this message is helping those that have read it and will read it. See the world needs people like you and me that will look fear and the face and in the midst of it still share our gift with the world.

I want to encourage you and tell you give yourself permission to face what you have been running from. Its time to give yourself permission to be great. Stop waiting on others to affirm you or tell you that is okay. Because some wont because they fear if you ever realize who you are they wont be necessary. Trust and believe in the greatness down on the inside of you and take the leap. When you access the power within you will surely see that you are stronger than you think and have more to give than you thought.

The Path

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The path is never easy or everybody would walk it. It is always challenging when the path that you are walking no one understands because they do not live in your shoes. If you are going to be original you are going to have to discover your path. It may not be popular or the one that others are walking on, but if it’s for you it will allow you to prosper in ways that you can not even imagine. The sad tragedy is that many will die without ever discovering it because they have moved from the one that is for them to the one that others have designed for their life.

I read an article that’s become real famous lately called “The Regrets of The Dying” One of these regrets is the fact that some said I wish I had the courage to live the life I wanted to live instead of the life others expected me to live. That’s the element you need to walk down this path, courage. No one is going to walk it for you and even when you start you will be misunderstood. Some will call you crazy and that you have lost your mind but remember the words of Theodore Roosevelt “It’s not the critic that counts”. Be focused, there are a lot of naysayers in the world. The path you are on will help you to discover what is needed for you to become the person you were always intended to become.

A lot of the noise you hear now are peoples regrets and even jealousy that you have taken the opportunity and seized it to walk your own path. Some will cheer others will scowl the truth is as long as you keep walking you will make it to the other side. Don’t get distracted there will be many things to come that will try to get you to veer off of it. If you are not careful you will lose time trying to explain your vision to those that don’t understand. Be encouraged and motivate yourself. Surround yourself with people who are also on their journey. They know the language of visionaries and are not afraid to step out into the world themselves. Your path is the path never apologize for it or compare it to someone else. The good book says the steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord. As long as they are ordered they will be completed on the path.

What is Humility?

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Humility is defined as freedom from pride or arrogance. It is the action of making oneself low. I believe in humility and its importance for being successful in life. No one should ever get too big-headed that they think it’s all about them or become so self-absorbed without considering other people. But there is another danger when you become so self-deprecating that you allow people to think that you are a doormat. What is the difference? When you are humble that comes from a sense of awareness of who you are and your value without it going to your head. When you are a doormat that comes from a place of low self-worth and value. Everyone is valuable and important, no one deserves or should be treated with disrespect. unfortunately, you can have people who feel they can treat you less than or second class. It is as you come into the awareness of your strengths and weaknesses that you understand the power of humility. If you are struggling with low self-worth hold on to these three significant principles that will help you understand when you are operating out of an awareness of yourself or from low self-worth.

1.Being humble does not mean accepting abuse or disrespect: As I stated abuse and disrespect is accepted when you are not aware of your value and your worth. It is not humble to allow people to disrespect you or your boundaries or to try to diminish your self-worth

2. Being humble is being aware of your strengths and weakness: It takes a strong person to know what their weaknesses are and what they are strong in. That means being able to acknowledge what you need help in. the truth is all of us have weaknesses its how we choose to manage them that makes the difference.

3. Being Humble means being teachable: As a mentor always says to me no one likes a know it all. Someone that is unable to be told anything or taught anything. Always be in the posture of a student willing and able to learn. Be open to constructive feedback that is meant to build you up and help you towards your future.

As you continue towards success and opportunities I want to leave you with the words that an old sage said to me. I don’t care how far you go always keep your feet on the ground.

Boundaries

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Last week on #powerfultuesday which is an empowering quote I share on every Tuesday on instagram ( which I hope your following me on…..smile) I shared this quote you see in the picture. If they don’t respect your boundaries they don’t respect you. It got a favorable response from people with a lot of comments and likes. i think that it hit a nerve that many have been dealing with in their relationships and situations. We are filled with so much information about what boundaries are and what they are not. I want to give you my feelings and observations about the importance of them.

There are three points I made on my periscope about this subject (shameless plug I periscope every Tuesday 10:00 – 10:15 PM every Tuesday) On it I shared three power principles that I would like to share with you.

First lets define what a boundary is. Boundaries are a line that marks the limits of an area; a dividing line. It is a limit of a subject or sphere of activity. One of the best persons I think that speaks on this is Dr. Henry Cloud and he says about boundaries “Boundaries define us. They define what is me and what is not me. A boundary shows me where I end and someone else begins.”

These are the three points I made on Tuesday:

1)Communicate what your boundaries are

One of my favorite authors says that “communication kills assumption” and many times our boundaries are violated because we have not clearly communicated what they are and how we want to be treated. It makes a clear dividing line for what is and isnt acceptable in your space.

2) Don’ Be Afraid   to Walk Away

Many times we stay in situations that are toxic and dysfunctional way too long. It is challenging to deal with cutting ties especially if it means people you have had in your life for a long time. Understand boundaries are not about getting people to change but making sure that you change and are in healthy relationships that honor and respect who you are.

3) Never Feel Guilty For Setting a Boundary

Guilt can haunt you if you are not careful. Especially if you have not been setting boundaries before. It is a new practice and something you’re not use to doing. Give yourself permission to do whats best for you and your well-being. It may be uncomfortable but it will work out in the end.

 

I hope these power points help you as you journey through life.

Embracing Uncertainty

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March comes in like a lion and goes out like a lamb. This is the first day of the third month of the year. It just seems like yesterday we were saying Happy New Year (not New Years lol) And all of the possibilities and hopes that would seem to be for us in the year that we call 2018. A few years back I read a book by Susan Jeffers called Embracing Uncertainty (if you never read Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway shame on you). this book is true to its title and definitely is one that needs to be looked at. we are definitely living in uncertain and unpredictable times. Just take the time to look at the news and scroll down your timeline you can tell that things are different. It’s not just that times are different we are also evolving. I am scared of anyone that has not developed matured or become more since they have grown up that is a sign of immaturity.

But even as we mature starting something new always brings a level of uncertainty. You never know what is going to be in store for you as you go forward. It means that you have to handle what comes with being in this world and that is embracing uncertainty. You never know what is going to come your way or down the pipe. One day can be great and the next you have to deal with something that you may not be prepared for. If you look at your surroundings it will keep you locked up in your apartment not going anywhere. What I realize is that it is always important to be wise and take the necessary precautions in life but to live in fear is not a good thing. I can’t guarantee you fame or fortune or that you will be healthy all the time. It is true what the sacred text states “it rains on the just as well as the unjust” Our responsibility is to embrace uncertainty. Do not allow fear to become your prison and live in a state of waiting for the other shoe to drop.

It is time to embrace every moment and be thankful for the good. Embracing uncertainty does not mean denying reality, actually, it is allowing life to flow in the way and path that it needs to go. Everything in your life will not go the way that you want it to go but trust that you will be okay whatever life offers and gives to you. With layoffs looming the stock market unpredictable health scares and crises live in a reality that to trust every moment is a moment to express gratitude just to be alive. Tomorrow may bring rain or it may bring sunshine. If it brings rain bring an umbrella if it brings sunshine bring your sunglasses. Be thankful for it all and embrace uncertainty.